Saturday, August 15, 2009

more half-century


My siblings and I hosted a small dinner party a few weeks ago to honor our parents and celebrate their 50 years of marriage. I had a very hard time with the "50" on top of their cake!


This is a picture of all the people who attended the party. A special prize awaits for my first reader (who I have never met face-to-face), who can correctly figure out which person in the picture is me!

Monday, July 20, 2009

the half-century mark




For those of us born when JFK campaigned against Nixon for the presidency on television, this year marks what many people consider a "milestone" birthday for a lot of my friends, for my extended family, for my work buddies and for me. In this large network of people (for which I am eternally grateful) there are mixed feelings amongst us about this year and this birthday.


We are a unique group: my best friend from kindergarten just had open-heart surgery and is doing well; my husband feels the effects of a middle-aged body after every twice-weekly volleyball session; the former co-worker for whom I hosted a surprise party on her 30th birthday is having another surprise party courtesy of her husband this weekend. Two of my close friends from elementary school (who are the same age as me) are grandparents! My kids are just 7 and 10 years old - how can someone my age be a grandparent ??? My college roommate beat cancer last year; she is looking at this birthday as the beginning of the second half of her life, an amazing gift.


I can't decide how I feel about the big five-oh. On one hand, I am proud of where I am in my life: I like my job, I love my family, I treasure my friends. On the other hand, I have an overwhelming amount of work to do to get back to a healthy weight, and part of me says f**k it - I am nearly 50 and I should not care. I know I need to be healthy to live a long time to take care of my family...


My youngest sister (by 16 years) did an amazing lifestyle makeover in the last year: changing what she ate and training to complete a 5K run in less than six months. She looks so vibrant and healthy now, compared to 18 months ago - I am SO proud of her - she is my inspiration.


More to follow...

Sunday, March 29, 2009

first quarter 2009 update OR

...how to deliver news / feelings when my job in sales support is taking over my brain...


The good news is that my 12-year-old nephew is healing up so well from his bout with bone cancer last year that he is playing on not just one, but TWO, baseball teams this spring. At third base, shortstop and/or pitcher, you would never know he was missing a bone in his lower right leg, unless you noticed the scar than runs from his knee to his ankle.


His mom, my sister C., starts radiation this week to combat round 2 of breast cancer. She had surgery at the beginning of February, and due to internal bleeding and blood clots in her lungs, what was supposed to be a 2-3 day stay in the hospital kept her there for most of February. This time around she will not need chemo, which means she gets to keep all of her lovely copper-colored hair (natural, no gray - I am envious!)


It is officially springtime here in Denver now, as we got an 18-inch dumping of wet snow on Thursday this week. 3 days later, the temperature is back to 60 degrees F., with melting runoff everywhere. Another snowstorm expected tomorrow... I love where I live!

My parents marked their 50th wedding anniversary in early January this year. My dad wanted a big party to celebrate; my mom wanted to ignore the whole situation. As a compromise, their six children have talked them into a casual family dinner later this summer, where we will host an evening at a family-owned restaurant in their honor. My mom insists that only her children, their spouses and the 10 grandchildren be present... so we are honoring their wishes, sort of. We have invited my two aunts who were in their wedding party 50 years ago to join us, but we are not telling my parents that they are coming. We are also putting together a slide show about my parents and their life together, using pictures culled from 70+ years of photo albums. Two of my sisters and I are working on that project, and having a blast laughing at hairstyles and fashions (or in the case of my lower-middle-class family, NO fashion sense).

My kids are healthy, my husband and I are still gainfully employed, and all is well here. Thanks for stopping by!

Wednesday, December 24, 2008

Twelve immeasurables in the Christmas season

Happy Christmas to my small cadre of readers. I appreciate each one of your visits, and your comments also mean a lot to me.

The online world continues to be fascinating to me, especially the manner in which people connect. I feel I know so much about several people I have never met, just by reading their insightful writings on their 'blogs. Thank you for sharing (and you know who you are) and for your witty, sad, intelligent, educational, entertaining and extrodinarily-written posts!

In our house today, I am grateful for two healthy children who are working hard at the kitchen table, crafting last-minute Christmas presents for family members. I am grateful for jobs that both my husband and I have, that pay well enough for us to have health insurance and frequent dinners out with our children. I am grateful for the wisdom we had to buy a house 13 years ago, and for the financial acumen to refinance our mortgage at the right time to keep us with house payments we can still afford.

I am grateful for pediatric oncologists, who have been successfully treating my 11-year-old nephew for bone cancer for the last 7 months. I am grateful to the advances in medical technology that allow said nephew's breast-cancer surviving mom (my sister) to learn today that her cancer is back... in her lymph nodes this time. As a single parent of two boys, she has had more that her share of difficult times in her life, and it does not seem fair that she has to go through cancer treatments again... especially since her son is not yet done with his cancer regimen. I am grateful for the amazing financial support system my sister has in her kids' school and in her church community.

Finally, I am grateful for the willingness of my husband and my children to take in an extra cousin on a regular basis, when my sister and her older son have to be at the hospital for days on end. We have integrated K into our lives, and for the most part, he doesn't seem to mind staying with us.

Thank you, dear readers, for visiting!

Tuesday, November 04, 2008

...and the vote goes to...

I was in line when my neighborhood polling place opened at 7am today. There were only about 20 people in front of me, and the line moved very quickly. I was in and out in under 30 minutes.

At the risk of alienating the small group of readers who come here, I will tell you I voted for the McCain / Palin ticket. After listening to both candidates in the debates, Mr. McCain matched more of the way I think than did Mr. Obama.

I will not be disappointed if Obama wins - he seems like a decent person, with his heart in the right place. If he really can take care of everyone who needs help, and do it without impacting the manner in which my hard-earned paycheck is distributed, I am okay with that.

I think a lot of people have been swayed by Obama's charisma and eloquent speaking style. His talk about change is refreshing, but I am not sure how much he will really be able to accomplish as the President of the US, especially in the short term.

I wish everyone well today, and hope all eligible people vote. This is America, after all, and although we have our problems, there are lots more people who want to move here than want to leave, so we must be doing something right!

Tuesday, October 21, 2008

Debate aftermath

So, it is two weeks from the election, and I still have not figured out who will get my vote for president.

I watched the second presidential candidate debate on tape, which I found a good use of my time. When the speakers veered off-topic, I fast-forwarded to the next question.

I did the same for the vice-presidential debate; I watched the first 20 minutes of the broadcast, to get a feel for how both candidates answered questions, and then listened to the rest of it from another room. With apologies to all the Sarah Palin detractors out here in my small circle of blog readers, I was pleasantly surprised at how well Ms. Palin came off. (I had never seen her or Mr. Biden speak before).

Due to kid issues, I missed the final presidential debate on TV, but I listened to part of it on the radio. Both candidates are consistent in their messages; both seem like good men with the country's best interests at heart. Who to choose? Who to choose?

I have to say here, also, that I have made a conscious effort to ignore all the advertising that is going on. I don't watch much TV or listen to the radio often; any political mail that comes in the mailbox promptly goes into the trash. I am trying to make decisions based on what the candidates themselves said.

The Colorado ballot is the longest it has been since 1920; I will be turning to the League of Women Voters for summaries of all the issues.

To gauge my standing after the debates, I re-took the abcnews quiz: http://abcnews.go.com/Politics/MatchOMatic/fullpage?id=5542139

and guess what happened?

I am now in agreement with one candidate on 10 of the 13 questions posed... it is the same candidate with whom I agreed 7 out of 13 times before.

All to be revealed in due time...

Sunday, September 28, 2008

a tale of two campaigns and one unaffiliated voter

With my voter registration party affiliation reading "Independent", lots of people are interested in my opinion at this time of year. So much so, that I was invited to participate in a focus group around the first presidential candidate debate last Friday evening.



I reported to an office building in downtown Denver about 45 minutes before the debate was to begin. The research firm conducting the focus group paid for my parking, and also paid me $150 for my time.

I recognized another person in the room - a friend of my sister's - and we chatted before we were herded into a conference room with two large flat-panel TV screens and a front wall made up of one-way mirrors. Everyone was given a hand-held device on which we were to record our "approval" or "disapproval" of what the speaker was saying, throughout the entire broadcast.

We practiced by giving demographic information about ourselves, and then answering some questions as to the candidates' positions on issues such as foreign policy, the current financial crisis, homeland security, etc.

There was no indication of anyone's party affiliation in the room. My acquaintance said she was a registered Republican, but she was not sure if she was going to vote that way.

More than one person commented on the seemingly non-diverse group of people in the room. I guessed there were about 100 participants, who were evenly split male and female, and who seemed to range in age from 35 - 55. The very obvious issue was that there was just one black person in the room, and no one of obvious Hispanic descent. According to the census bureau, the Denver metropolitan area is made up of 50% people who consider themselves white, 35% who are Hispanic, and 10% who are black. With those numbers, you would expect a room of 100 random people to have just half of them be white, instead of 98%, as our group was.

During the debate, I approved and disapproved of what both McCain and Obama said during different portions of the broadcast. It seemed to me that I was equal in my approval / disapproval of both candidates over the course of the debate.

After the debate, we were asked the same set of questions as before, and I felt a little differently after the program than before I saw and heard both men speak. My over-riding observations on the broadcast were as follows:

1 - Obama is a MUCH better public speaker than McCain.

2 - Why anyone would want the job of president is beyond me - there is so much to fix; how can one person want to take responsibility for all of that?

3 - McCain is the guy I would want defending my country from attack; however, he is NOT the guy to improve the image of America around the globe.

4 - Although the focus of the debate was to be foreign policy, Obama kept referring to things that need to be fixed domestically. This kind of bugged me, as I thought he should stay on topic, but others in the room felt that Obama sees the way we deal with global issues as being critical to how we deal with domestic ones.

5 - McCain is distancing himself from eight years of Republican George Bush and likening himself to Republican Ronald Reagan instead. He even talks like Reagan, I think: somewhat grandfatherly and condescending.

6 - My approval rating of both candidates went from 50% (neutral) before the debate to be 55% (approve slightly) after the broadcast.

7. I found out later from the people conducting the research that the demographics of the group were specifically chosen to have more white people in the room. Kind of weird, I thought, but I gathered up my cash payment and left into the warm autumn evening.